We are told that the most important thing for ourselves is to get a good night’s sleep, to have a well-rested body and mind. But we get yelled at for not having perfect grades and flawless marks. And it is frowned upon if your social life is not met by societies’ high standards. It’s a lose-lose situation, whereas most teenagers decided to neglecting their own needs in order to make the people around them happy.
During a 24 hour day there is only so much you can fit in without burning yourself out and risking a mental breakdown. But instead of decreasing the workload and easing up on the things that causes the stress, it gets amplified. We get blamed for not managing to juggle all the things in our lives without prioritizing one over the other. And as the world develops and the knowledge grows, so does the expectations and workload we get handed, but not our capability of handling it all at once.
When we do not match up to these standards that have been made for us, we get pressured from everyone and everything around us. And we have this constant stress factor that builds up to anxiety and fear of failure. And it intensifies as the pressure you’ve put on yourself does, causing a lot of teenagers, and people in general to have high anxiety levels. And it is believed that psychiatric patients during the 1950’s had the same anxiety levels as today’s teenagers have.
A police officer in Essex was diagnosed with dissociative amnesia after suffering from a mental breakdown. His breaking point occurred after witnessing the aftermath of a teenager’s suicide. The high anxiety, stress and trauma he had been put through cost him his memories. Every 48th hour his memory is wiped clean, and he can’t remember neither his wife nor daughter.
Dissociative amnesia causes the person to be unable to remember important personal information, and the degree of memory loss goes beyond normal forgetfulness and includes gaps in memory for long periods of time or of memories involving the traumatic event.
(Article in the dailymail.co.uk)
It is not possible nor necessary to please everyone, and the only one that actually matters is oneself, and that just has to suffice at some point.